Mask Off
Mask off
I am autistic.
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Breaking the Cycle of Control
Controlling people breeds a toxic cycle – because people being controlled go on to control others. Breaking it requires being firm on 3 fronts: With the person who controlled you With yourself With others around you With the person who controlled you – Draw boundaries, and stick to them. Explain if need be (sometimes they
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Conflict Resolution – the Ugly Truth
People claim “peace to reign”, and simply sweep matters under the carpet as against addressing the underlying issue. No consequences, no new laws, no boundaries, no compensation, no behavioral therapy, nothing. Just ” apologies” and show of “reconciliation”. Then the same issue keeps popping up with increasingly worse manifestations and we keep burying an insanely
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Neurodivergence – a Short Interview
Neurodivergence?? Care to share few nuggets? — Love Surgeon??❤️ (@iam_Tommik) December 19, 2020 Neurodivergence speaks to the fact that people’s brains are structured differently. The “majority” are neurotypical. The non-typical group (neurodivergents: autistic people, people with ADHD, dyslexia, dyspraxia, BPD, and a host of learning/mental “disabilities”) have different strengths and weaknesses. The concept of neurodivergence
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Neurodivergence in the Workplace
Say you have a staff who is really good at their job but they have to be micromanaged to be efficient and your organization policy is really against micromanaging, what do you do? Tough — Moe (@Mochievous) December 8, 2020 While some might argue that “if they need to be micro-managed, then they’re probably not
Jane's Thoughts, Neurodivergence, PHRONESIS Lighthouse
Mask Off (2) – Non-speaking spells
Not too long ago, I came face to face with just how long I had hidden in non-verbal spells as against an external meltdown. The withdrawal and shut down. The inability to speak, and if forced, the stutters, the frustrated tears, the immense effort needed to hide all if this from the public view, and
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Neurodivergence in Adults (Mask Off 3)
Sometimes, I feel like using the word “neurodivergence” hides how common place and really relatable it really is. So, I’m adapting a Twitter thread I recently made to show what neurodivergence sometimes looks like in an adult’s life because contrary to popular opinion, autism does not go away when you hit 18, neither does ADHD,
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Kindness
A number of times this year, we have had a wave of people reminding others to be kind, to treat others well etc. However, it does not seem to last long before we sort of return to “default settings”. In this article, we take a look at kindness, and some of the many different ways
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Age, Growth and Wisdom
Enoch lived 365 years, walking in close fellowship with God. Then one day he disappeared, because God took him. Genesis 5:23-24 NLT In this part of the world, there’s a tradition that baffles me, mostly because I do not see the logical or Scriptural sense in it. The passage of time offers nothing of itself
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Neurodivergent Education
Long article alert This has to be the longest article I have put up here till date, and I took a break while putting it together to come add this intro. My own autistic diagnosis rocked my world so hard that it nearly fell apart, and then I had to make the tough call to
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I am Enough
No Fear, No Helplessness, No Defeat. In our last mail, we looked at fear: how to handle the emotion, push back on the feelings, reach around the scare and anxiety to push forward to success. (You can read a recap or download the audio file.) Today, we’d be looking at DIMINISHING. Diminishing is a fancy word for when
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I Miss You
I miss you! No kidding. I know I love to stay (and work) indoors, but this lockdown is a different scenario. I Miss being able to call for hangouts and have brainstorm sessions with so much light and wisdom blazing, warm bear hugs and kisses, plus the beautiful fellowship of good food. On the other
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Dealing with Fear
1 Cor 7:5 …outside were conflicts, inside were fears… Building a business is often tougher than it looks: on the outside, you’ve got to get through the red tape of administration, staying legal, growing your customer base etc. Then you’d need to work out the logistics of operations, managing people (especially staff) and planning
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Let’s Read, Shall We?
Happy World Book Day ?? (Yup! I pulled out of a pretty good book to post this, so you’d better read to the end lol) Books are grossly under-rated, but it’s nice to see the international community come together to celebrate the one dynamically evolving tool that we rely on most heavily to shape our
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The Currency of Relationships
“The currency of relationships is tricky, yet the most natural thing in the world.” – P. K. Hadassah 2018 One of the most annoying statements I’ve heard from a person, is “I value relationships”. Half the time, when someone has to say that, they’re looking for personal gain, and can feel it slipping through