The thing about “unpaid labour” like taking care of a sick family member, managing the home or full time child care is that the person doing it is also typically unable to simultaneously hold down another full time job – or are doing the equivalent of 2 jobs (care work and their regular job)
I don’t think this consideration factors into the conversation often enough when their contributions are weighed
There’s this rhetoric about people being good spouses and bad parents and vice-versa that bothers me on a visceral level, and I think I have words to describe it now
For neurodivergent children: Sometimes we’ll be very early. Sometimes we’ll be quite late. Let us function on our own timeline
Appropriation is when they take the complaint and trivialize it by using it in every day (or work) conversation
You are not a bad person for being bold, assertive or owning your growth, person and experience
When I first came face to face with the possibility of being autistic, I was desperate to believe it could be fixed – training therapy, coaching. This is a poor summary of how being autistic impacts me
To make impulse buying work for you, you need to step beyond the habit to fixate on the order within the chaos. Here’s how:
A letter to narcissists: humans want to be regarded as people, inherently valuable, regardless of what they can/cannot do, what they have/don’t have, and if they last/don’t last
And no matter how much you pretend, the heart knows the truth, and people sense that first
It’s sometimes hard to find the right words to describe it: it’s ADHD, it’s autism, yet something else entirely as well. They impact each other in ways that skew presentations away from what is typical or expected
For neurodivergent people, managing time and energy leans heavily on managing motivation as well. Productivity also means surmounting obstacles
Are you lazy, or are you tired? Is the problem managing time, or managing your energy? Productivity has many faces, and time is only one
In the real world, labels don’t work – they hurt. You are left at the mercy of whatever education they might have had on the subject – a dangerous foray at best, and career suicide more often than not
Autistic children do need to be parented, but not every meltdown is an unreasonable tantrum. Learning how to differentiate them is key to proper parenting and providing the needed support
RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) can be tricky to navigate when both sides are hurt/offended. Navigating the controversy of offence and penance is big deal when you are neurodivergent
…turning your weaknesses into strengths. From blank thoughts at a crucial moment to non-verbal spells, the struggle to communicate can make or mar your work
